Not Changing My Christmas Day Plans

Lot of interesting things going on at the moment concerning the pandemic and once again people have been asked to change their holiday plans.

We started hearing that 20 people could gather, which quickly dropped to 10, but seriously, I’m just not changing my original plans. I’m not.

Last Christmas my husband and I spent the day at the hospital with my mother who was not doing at all well. It was a quiet, miserable day confined within the walls of the hospital. The man in the next bed had ALS and couldn’t speak but came over with his tablet and wished us a Merry Christmas. It was touching. Turkey dinner was served to my mother, but she hadn’t been eating for many days prior to Christmas. That day was no different. Honestly, it didn’t look that appealing. We tried to get her to take her medications. I can’t remember if she did that day, but my thought is that she didn’t. Most days she wasn’t able to even do that. She remembers nothing about last Christmas and so you might wonder what point there was in our being there in the first place–but there we were and I don’t regret it. It was Christmas and Christmas is for families. At that time each patient was allowed two visitors for the day. We probably stayed eight hours.

Weeks later, we were able to have turkey dinner with more of our family which was absolutely delightful. While we are told that Christmas is December 25th and we should celebrate then, the actual celebration is only a part of what Christmas is about. Many of us insist it’s about family and spending time with loved ones, and if that is the case why are we so hung up on it being that one specific day. Being with family can be a special time, any time. Don’t take the people in your life for granted or the time spent with them. There people who live far away from their families and rarely get a chance to spend time with them, while others get to see family every day. If you believe and celebrate Christmas as being the birth of Jesus, there are likely many ways for you to honour that on December 25th without having a house full of people.

One year later, we’ll again spend Christmas dinner with my mother but that has been the plan all along– the three of us for turkey dinner. What’s wrong with that? The size of the gathering does not determine the amount of joy you feel in your heart on Christmas. Big gathering or small, it’s still Christmas.

Later, in the New Year there will be time to spend with our kids and grandkids. Yes, it’s Christmas and Christmas is for families but so is every other day of the year. I guess what I’m saying is that there’s no point in getting hung up on a date on a calendar page, enjoy the time you have with your family or friends whenever that is. Those moments are precious and we never know when they’ll come to an end.

Like I said, not changing my plans. And I’m fine with that. Last year sitting at my mother’s bedside has certainly made me appreciate the Christmas we will have this year.

I’m not sure if you’ve changed your holiday plans and whether that has been disappointing for you, I really hope it hasn’t. My wish is that you enjoy the day and have someone to share time, some turkey and memories.

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  1. Government doesn’t dictate my plans for Christmas. I don’t count heads. Who ever is here is here. I won’t turn away family or friends. I never make firm plans. I set a general time for the turkey, and who ever is here eats.

    I’m glad you’re not changing your plans. Time is precious. Not to be squandered. While your mother might not remember last Christmas, I imagine you being there was good for her.

    We never know what next Christmas will bring, so I’ll enjoy this one like it’s my last. Why not. We only have now. There is no tomorrow.


    • I know many people have many thoughts on the restrictions that are in place and I respect that. From the start, I wanted a small gathering and my kids both live in the Central Zone. It’s what I felt most comfortable with, but not unlike other Christmas’s in the past. Right no, my mother is very frail and vulnerable and that won’t change. I wouldn’t want her coming down with even a cold at this point. Until this last wave I hadn’t known anyone who got the virus. But that changed when a couple we knew both died in the fall within days of each other. It must have been so hard for the family. And now, a family member of mine has tested positive with symptoms that, like I said, I wouldn’t want Mum to get.

      So, for me, this is not about government imposed restrictions. I would be having a small gathering any way. They are my restrictions.

      I hope you have a wonderful holiday, Diane.

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      • I understand your situation. Even when my mom was younger, if I had a cold or one of the kids did, I wouldn’t visit her. I would even stay away from my younger brother who has serious health issues. That is the logical thing to do.

        Merry Christmas.

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  2. secrowleastlinkca

     /  December 24, 2021

    Hi Laura, it’s been awhile….great post. You had me going till the end. I couldn’t have said it any better. Yr completely right about spending time with family and friends. Happy Holidays with whom ever, where ever and when ever it is to you and yr family!


  3. Wishing you and your family a magical Christmas full of love and joy whether you are together or not. How wonderful that you can spend it with your mom. Precious days. It will be the first Christmas without mom, and it is also her birthday. We will raise a glass for her!


    • Yes, I do feel very fortunate about being able to spend Christmas with her especially after the Christmas we had last year. I’m sure your mom will be on your minds tomorrow. From what I’ve read she was quite something. Merry Christmas, Darlene and all the best in 2022.



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