It’s Not You, it my Internets

You know how when someone says, it’s not you, it’s me they’re really trying to tell you to go take a hike, get lost, leave and never come back. You know that, right?

But I’m not saying that to my readers or anyone even though the title of the blog post might suggest something different. I love it when you all come to visit my blog.

BUT the reality of my online presence is that I struggle on a daily basis with rural internet woes. I’m surprised someone hasn’t written a little ditty about it as apparently 30% of us here in Nova Scotia do not have adequate high-speed. *sigh*

What does that mean someone who’s not in that 30% might ask?

Well, for me, it means that I’m not always present on Facebook or Twitter, and when I am there most times it’s in a limited capacity. Pages only partially load or fail to load altogether. I can’t always “react” to my friends posts or comment. Accessing FB messenger is sometimes impossible for days at a time. I can’t always create posts or upload photos. Just think of all that witty content you’re missing out on. (Okay, that last part is a joke but you know what I mean.) What I miss greatly is that I don’t get to see your photos or videos, do video chats or anything of that sort. Visiting blogs is a challenge some days and leaving a comment can literally take a half hour of attempting over and over only to have to give in and concede defeat. And simply not having the time to wait and wait which is even more frustrating than waiting for an editor to make a decision on a book you’ve submitted for publication. (Yeah, THAT bad!)

What I will say it that so many of you have been simply super at promoting my new book online in my absence, posting photos of the cover and putting the book out there, sharing MY posts to the people on you friend lists. What would I do without you helping me out? I can’t thank you all enough.

Needless to say, I’m beyond frustrated with my Internets situation, but it’s my reality for now.

So, please don’t ever feel that I’m ignoring any of you if I’m sometimes late to the party or don’t show up at all. It’s not you, I promise, it’s my Internets. I enjoy reading what you post on social media and the photos you post that I sometimes get to see, but not all the time because they don’t always load. And I thank you all for your help in promoting my books. It is something I’m forever grateful for.


BUT we’ve been given a small bit of light in this very dark tunnel. I’ve been told by our MLA that our community is on the list to receive high-speed and people in the community have spoken to workers in the are who are out “scouting” the area. Still, as I sit here this morning with my coffee, making several attempts to get into my Facebook messages, I have to wonder if this is all talk, all for show or will the seeming will impossible finally come to pass.

At Long Last–Good Mothers Don’t

After what turned out to be a challenging week, this was waiting for me on my doorstep when I got home from work. I’ve got to be honest, I was starting to wonder if June would actually be the month. Of course back when the world was normal, my book was to be out in time for Mother’s day. It just goes to show how things can change. But I am not complaining. Today, many business in Nova Scotia have opened up. There is a small light at the end of the tunnel and it is so very welcomed.


I am as pleased as can be with the books and so grateful to everyone at Nimbus Publishing. Having a adult fiction novel published has been my dream since forever. The books are absolutely beautiful. Hopefully, you’ll see that for yourself soon enough.

So, to update the update on the update. The books have arrived!!

Super Moons and Flying Squirrels

Sometimes life gives us a chance to pay more attention to the world closest around us. Despite what many of us have been thinking and feeling these past couple of months, pandemics are apparently good for some things. It’s forced many of us to stay close to home and appreciate what we have in our own backyard. I also think we’ve stopped taking life for granted, especially those people in our lives that we haven’t been able to see or spend time with for months now, with that ever looming question hanging over us : When? When will we be able to hug our friends and family? When will life go back to some sort of normalcy? 

Patient. We’ve been told to be patient. Let me assure you, writers are patient people. We have to be.

Thankfully, we’ve made some fun discoveries during our self-isolation. Yes, there have been times of uncertainty and many sleepless nights, not to mention how much we miss seeing the kids and grand kids, and wondering how long it will be before we can visit our granddaughter who lives in another province. But hope is out there and is something that keeps us going. The world is filled with many wondrous and beautiful things.

I’m not sure how many of you had the chance to see the super moon earlier this month. It was a lovely yellow as it came up across the lake. Quite breath-taking.

And while we were out discovering things in our back yard, Hubby found a flying squirrel in a dead tree on our property when he randomly tapped on it. He got a bit of a surprise when this little girl popped her head out. We’re thinking it’s a “she” as she appeared rather plumb and  a quick search on the internet told me they have their babies in May and June.

I was quite tickled to get a photo since they are nocturnal which means you don’t often see them during the day.

As we trudge through this pandemic, I hope you are making some wonderful discoveries where you live. With all the great weather we’ve been having recently, and summer not far off, I am looking forward to making many more discoveries in the weeks ahead.

Good Mothers Don’t–Guest Post

I’m not sure about you, but I was glad to see April come to an end. It was a challenging month on so many levels.

I’m looking forward to May and all that it brings. I’m also one month closer to the release of my first novel for adults which is very exciting. As many of you know, my original release date of April 30th was pushed ahead to June. Unfortunate, but it’s not the end of the world, and hopefully things in the world will be a bit better at that point.

In the meantime, I’m a guest of Darlene Foster’s blog today. HERE  Darlene has written a lovely review of Good Mother Don’t  from an ARC she received from my publisher awhile back and she’s has asked me a few questions as well. 

So what are you waiting for? Pop on over and say, hello! We will enjoy the company.

 

 

This Social Isolation is For the Birds

Someone forgot to tell our weekend visitors that all flights to East Dalhousie have been cancelled for the foreseeable future–government orders. But like some others who refuse to follow the rules, they showed up unexpected.  With the distance they’d come from, we hadn’t the heart to send them flying. I’ll admit, we were a bit apprehensive but they did practice social distancing for the entire visit even if they didn’t wear masks. So what if we broke the rules this once. I mean, you tell me, what did it hurt?

 

 

Update on the Good Mothers Don’t Update

With all that’s been going on in the world, with the pandemic and all, it seems our lives are constantly being updated. We hear one thing and then suddenly that has changed. It’s no wonder. Fighting an invisible enemy, one we have never come up against before, makes it that much more challenging. We are all trying to do the best we can.

In an earlier post I mentioned that my novel, GOOD MOTHERS DON’T was scheduled for release on April 30th. But there’s been a change of plans…Sorry, I know how most of you dislike change. I’ve  received a new book update and I wanted to let you all know that the release date has now been pushed ahead to June 1st. While I know this might be disappointing to some of you, I feel that under the circumstances, with the pandemic still shaking up our lives, it’s for the best.

That means you’ll have several more weeks to wait but I hope you will consider the wait worthwhile.

In the meantime, in case you missed it, there’s a lovely article on the book, written by Allison Lawlor, HERE that appeared in the Chronicle Herald.

I will try to keep you in the loop if anything new comes along or if there are further changes to this. 

I should also mention that my Cammie prequel, originally scheduled for publication this fall, has been pushed ahead to Spring 2021. I can also confirm that the title is THE FAMILY WAY. I’m really excited for this book as we finally, finally learn who Cammie’s mother is. There are also a few surprises along the way, things even I didn’t initially know when I started writing the book.

That’s it for now: stay home, stay safe, stay well, stay reading..

 

Nova Scotia Strong

As a Nova Scotian it’s difficult for me to describe what these past few days have been like, except to say sad–extremely sad. With that said, I can’t begin to imagine what the families of all the victims from the weekend’s shootings are going through. Such senseless violence that really will never make sense to any of us. How can it?

We think that we live in a safe part of the world, that our little province couldn’t possibly be touched by violence of this magnitude. We’ve all heard about shootings in the US and even other places in Canada. But here we are, with at least 22 lives lost, the largest mass shooting in Canadian history. It can happen anywhere.

My heart, all of our hearts, go out to the families of all those lost.

Good Mothers Don’t Update

Remember me? I’m the author whose book is due to be published in April.

*sigh* 

Normally this would be a happy time for me, with my friends making preparations for my book launch. (You all know who you are!)

We’ve had some amazing book launches here in East Dalhousie which is due to all the wonderfully supportive people who live, not on my community, but in many surrounding communities. Not to mention the many hands that have stepped in to help in the past. You’re all so awesome.

It goes without saying that with every launch there’s a bit of apprehension for the author, wondering if anyone will even show up. In so far as my last three book launches went, I had nothing to worry about. So many people came out to support me and I can’t even describe what that meant to me.

But this time things are different thanks to COVID-19. The community centre won’t be filled with my family and friends. I’ll be home alone with Hubby and my author copies of the book. Maybe I’ll have a glass of wine.

Of course the book can be ordered through those independent bookstores that are still operating, also through Amazon.ca Here and Chapters. ca Here.

or it can also be ordered directly from Nimbus Publishing Here right now they have a special on: free shipping for orders over $50. Make sure that if you’re ordering through them online, there’s a shipping code you need to use that is at the top of the site to get the free shipping.

So while we won’t all be getting together to help launch Good Mothers Don’t into the world, in the meantime you might want to read this lovely, lovely review of my book that my editor sent to me over the Easter weekend. It really helped raise my spirits!

Good Mothers Don’t Review

I will continue to keep you updated if I have anything else to share. And for anyone of you who have ordered or are planning to order my book online in lieu of a book launch I thank you so much!  While these may be very uncertain times right now, and for the foreseeable future, there’s not a whole lot we can do about it. But there are always bright spots along the way, like the publication of my first novel for adults. Now that’s good news!

Please feel free to share your good news in the comments below, big or small or maybe just something positive that happened to you. I’d like to hear about it. Things may not be the greatest right now but we’re going to get through this eventually.

The Season for Birdhouses

When I was young people built birdhouses in the spring hoping to entice some feathered friends to move in. Most of those neighbours were swallows, but sometimes other birds would take up residence. Hubby still builds birdhouses and with all the extra time on his hands I’m sure construction will continue in the weeks ahead. Last year we had a family of chickadees as well as the swallows.

Here is the latest duplex that Hubby made completely out of recycled material. I hope the birds appreciate his efforts to reuse.

I realize that this house probably does not exemplify the meaning of physical or social distancing that is so important at this time, although I think so long as the birds don’t object they will be fine. In fact, I’m willing to bet on it.

In some ways I consider myself fortunate during these times of the COVID 19 pandemic as we have 7.5 acres to roam around on. Our property also boarders a lake. Yesterday, I sat by the water’s edge, felt the warmth of the sun on my face, and for a time I stayed totally present. I didn’t think about what all was going on in the world, the all the worries about the future and exactly what the world would look like when we finally come through to the other side. I didn’t fret about the launching of my book this spring which is obviously on hold. I pushed away my sadness of not being able to visit with our grandchildren in the coming months and the reality that rural living means poor internet access for many of us. We are not even able to set up virtual visit.

So I sat there yesterday, taking in the beauty and feeling totally grateful for the moment and the entire day which couldn’t have felt more perfect. The air was quiet and I could hear the sound of water trickling from one place to another. There was a trio of Canada geese peacefully maneuvering their way across the water. Ducks quacked and fluttered their wings. The geese honked.

As I sat there looking out across the water, I thought about the people who lived in our home before us. I thought about how much harder life was for them back then and how hard they had to work. They did not have any of the modern things we take for granted these days; washing machines, dishwashers, TV, computers. I wondered if they ever had the chance to just sit by the lake watching and listening or if they were just too busy to appreciate it all. I thought, what a shame it was if they didn’t.

As it is important for us to remain hopeful during these uncertain times, please remember that there have been many before us who have faced adversity and came through stronger. We will too. I will leave you with this wonderful symbol of hope.

 

Stay strong. Stay at home. We will get through this.

 

A Post About Hope

I wanted to write a post about hope because it’s something we can all use, now more than ever, as we adjust to this new reality we’re in with social distancing. Such uncertain times for all of us as we try to keep ourselves and others safe from this invisible enemy. 

I read recently that hope empowers us. While this is true, hope can be hard to hang onto. Yet hope is the very thing that keeps us moving forward during trying times. Here’s something you might not know about me but I’m hopelessly hopeful. I find it difficult to admit defeat. I hang in there till the bitter even when common sense tells me otherwise because you just never know. But there are times when even I find it difficult to feel hope.

We’ve seen a lot of changes in our world in a very short time. For many of us, hope is what will bring us through the weeks and months ahead. There is no magic formula for hope. You can’t hold it in your hand but we can sometimes find hope in the most unlikely places. Sometimes it’s the little things–a meaningful gesture, the sight of new shoots poking their way out of the ground, a rainbow arching across the sky after the rain, the sound of children’s laughter or acts of kindness that warm our hearts–that can give us a glimmer of hope during dark times.

Earlier today, I went searching for some quotes about hope. Thankfully, there are plenty out there. Below are some that resonated with me and I wanted to share them. While a few quotes about hope won’t make this situation go away, my thought is that it certainly can’t hurt. There will be days ahead when many of us will need a gentle reminder of the hope that is all around us. My hope, my wish for all of you is that we will all work together to keep each other safe. 

  1. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace; where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy.~~ Saint Francis of Assisi

      2. Hope is outreaching desire with expectancy of good. It is a characteristic of all living beings.

         ~~Edward S. Ame

      3. Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and     never stops at all.~~ Emily Dickinson

      4. If you are going through hell, keep going. ~~Winston Churchill

      5. For every dark night there’s a brighter day. ~~Tupac

      6. Hope is the last thing ever lost. ~~Italian proverb

      7. Hope costs nothing.~~ Colette

       8. Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today. ~~Thich Nhat Hanh

       9. Hope itself is like a star – not to be seen in the sunshine of prosperity, and only to be discovered in the night of adversity. ~~Charles Haddon Spurgeon

       10. The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds.~~ Will Durant

 I hope these quotes will give you something to think about as we all try to remain hopeful in the weeks and months ahead. May we all stay safe.

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